Put on Self Control!

Journeying through life, I've had to deal with moments of frustration/anger and sometimes, I've seen myself not only flare up within but, vent it out on someone else  in various manners such as: "How dare you talk to me?" "Have you ever been treated that way?" "Don't even say it! You understand no part of what I'm going through!" "Keep your suggestions to yourself!" "Who asked you?"

Assuredly,  I can't be the only 'victim' of this 'drama' but, that doesn't make it right. Or, do you think it's okay to 'express yourself' at an innocent person's expense because everyone around you does so? It's mean, seeing that recepients of such actions end up sad and dampened because it beats their imagination that they were misunderstood/embarrassed in such a manner.

Get over yourself! Everyone has got struggles which make them feel irritable and full of agitations but they're able to 'put them under subjection' in a bid to live in peace and be a source of encouragement to someone else who draws strength from them. Why don't you try to do same, despite your situation?

If you're sincere, you'd agree that people have been there before and if they could go through it without being a source of agony to others, then you can do so too. Politely excuse yourself from a group and sort yourself, if need be. Don't transfer aggression on anyone rather, take a deep breath and hold your peace till you're calm and can speak to people around you without giving them a scare.

Self control is a necessary part of your life, do not neglect it. Always bear in mind that people around you also have various 'problems' plaguing their minds which they have not unleashed on people through their attitude because they're in control of their emotions. They don't need you to come into the picture with your share of 'problems' and disorganise them some more.

On the other hand, people around you may actually have a hand in what you're going through and you believe that they deserve whatever you want to unleash upon them. It is wise for you to stop and ask yourself the consequences of the step you are about to take. Will you like it? Will it speak well of you? Give yourself the answer and act accordingly.

Like I earlier said, I've had to deal with these moments but, I've learnt in recent times to obey the command: "Cast your burden on the LORD, and he will sustain you - Psalm 55:22 (HNV)" rather than vent my frustration on a fellow man. Also, I've decided to be a pillar of strength and hope to my fellowman, despite my emotions. God help me! Join me friend, put on self control and watch it do you a world of good!

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How about right now?

Many a times, you and I have decided to do 'it' later rather than right now. Sometimes, doing it later may cost you nothing but other times, it comes with a cost. Let me share with you a case of procastination (as it is called), which I specifically remember.

This particular instance stays fresh in my memory, like it was yesterday. Exactly 4 years today, Monday, September 12, I had the urge to place a call to a very dear person to my heart and all that came to mind was "I'll call later". It came again and I did same and the last time I had the prompt to call again, I totally ignored it and decided it's nothing seeing I'd meet the friend later.

That one cost me a great deal because I never saw or even heard from that dear friend again. My unique, friendly, supporting, responsible and awesome friend who was also my father, Enobong Umoren passed on that same day and I feel sad everyday I remember that I could've at least spoken with him for the 'last' time before his demise and I didn't, simply because I procastinated. That's just one, out of the numerous instances of procrastination I've indulged in.

For you, I don't know what it might cost you; a friend, job opportunity, your grades, dignity? You could loose anything as a result of refusing to take that step NOW. The major danger in procrastination is that you may NEVER get to do what you had in mind, or you might do it in a way that's different from what you initially intended.

Funny thing is, it might not cost you anything on many occasions, which may make you relax and keep procastinating and just when you don't expect it, disaster hits and like me, you will not like the consequences of your action.

It's not so easy to get up from your place of comfort to attend to a 'need' immediately but, doing so makes all the difference. You might not realise it, but someday you'd appreciate doing the right thing, at the right time. So, take a decision; how about you do 'it' right now, rather than "I will do it" later?

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I'm lovestruck and just can't help it!

I'm lovestruck! Yes, you read right. Hardly would you see a young lady come out to boldly tell you she's lovestruck, except she's unable to keep it within or just out to brag. However, on the day of the engagement, where she wants to show off the size and beauty of the stone on her ring, she flaunts the feelings she has kept hidden, relentlessly. Sadly, some of such engagements are still broken without resulting in marriage as expected, while some just stop being 'struck' by the love and go their separate ways.

Let me let you in on my secret. This man whose love has enveloped me is just awesome all round: so loving, tender, kind, gentle, understanding, caring, patient, forgiving, and so much more. I don't even know how to express his love. He loves me just as I am, no pretense whatsoever. He sweeps me off my feet. I never thought I could meet such a true lover. 

We began a relationship on 1st March, 2009, so I'm not mincing words when I say I've known him for so long. Despite this, he constantly surprises and pampers me beyond my understanding. He met me in a different way this time and gave me his warm embrace. Oh! How awesome I felt. He just loves me so much.

Within, I was pretty much messed up and had bottled up so much anger, bitterness, pain and hatred and couldn't express anything other than that until he visited me again. He held me in his arms and gently spoke to me to forgive all that had aught against me. He held me close and I felt the intensity of his love such that the shy, reserved girl in me didn't care who was watching or not watching. I basked in that moment, but I noticed that his love filled me and I longed to love like him.

Earnestly speaking, he touches me in the most amazing manner, wipes my tears, provides for me, listens to my groanings and never brings me down but, always leads me away from danger. Sometimes, I'm reluctant and make mistakes but, he loves me so much and forgives me, though he needs me to stop making those mistakes because he wants to be pleased in all I do. My mistake doesn't change the way he sees me, imagine that!!!

My lover is so powerful, yet gentle [imagine the contrast]. That doesn't change or affect anything, my dear. Ever heard of the perfect guy? That's just who he is; a combination of every quality you have on your list for the right lover, in all the right quantities. I'm dumbfounded by what he does to and for me.

I can go on and on listing how sweet he's been, but let me leave it there so you don't get jealous of me. He gave and still gives me reasons to smile. Sometimes, people watch me smile at myself and wonder what's wrong. Wonder no more, I'm in love. I'm in love with JESUS. Yes, Jesus Christ; my lover, my father, my king, my saviour, my friend and my everything.

You may wonder why I went through all the 'stress'. Oh trust me, every letter is worth it and I'm too glad He loves me to consider it stress to tell the whole world. He reminded me to expose our love relationship by showing love to people I come across. He also said I shouldn't only love those who love me after all, even the 'pharisees' do the same. 

Do you think you can love by your own self and are deciding to love with all that is within you? You should reconsider because without God, you can do nothing. So, you need to ask GOD for the grace and ability to love and only then can you bless and pray for those who curse and despisefully use you. 

You truly need to meet my lover, so that you can also show boldly that you're lovestruck and people will get jealous of you too. There's no separation or divorce in Him and He loves unconditionally. Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! I'm lovestruck and just can't help it, please.

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